About this site

I started Got Me Thinking after my mom passed away. Not right away—at first, I didn’t have the words. Just the silence, the heaviness, the odd moments when grief hit like a sucker punch out of nowhere. I needed a place to sort through it all. To try to understand what it means to lose someone, to stay behind, to keep living with the questions.

This site became that place.

I write about grief, but also about recovery. About mental illness—not in a clinical, textbook way, but in the way it actually feels when you’re in it. I’ve tried several treatments and medications. I’ve had moments of strength (or so people tell me) and moments where I didn't think it was worth going on. I know what it's like to not feel “normal,” and I’ve stopped pretending that’s a bad thing.

You’ll find stories here about people we’ve lost—celebrities like Chester Bennington, Robin Williams, and Matthew Perry—who meant something to me because they were fighting the same battles as me. You’ll find memories from my childhood, thoughts about the way our society handles pain, and reflections on the everyday things that got me thinking.

This isn’t a self-help blog. I’m not here to give advice. Everyone is different and grief and mental illness affects us all differently. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. There is no magic formula to follow that will guarantee recovery.

I’m here to say things out loud—because I've discovered that it's not healthy to keep things bottled up inside. Eventually, it (whatever "it" is) has to come out. We can either choose to release it ourselves or it will catapult out when we least expect it.

If you're grieving, struggling, or just searching for something real, I hope you can see you are not alone.

If anything you’ve read here resonated with you—even a sentence—consider subscribing. Got Me Thinking isn’t just a blog; it’s a space for people who feel things deeply, ask hard questions, and want to know they’re not the only ones. When you subscribe, you’re not just keeping up with new posts—you’re joining a quiet, honest community where it’s okay to speak your truth, or just sit with someone else’s. You don’t have to go through it alone.